{"status":true,"post":{"id":50142,"user_id":6,"status":1,"type":1,"orde":null,"notification_type":3,"static_post":0,"published_at":"2024-03-25 07:42:00","created_at":"2024-03-25T04:42:00.000000Z","updated_at":"2024-03-25T04:42:00.000000Z","edited_at":"2024-12-17 22:35:21","source_id":null,"post_id":50142,"is_featured":0,"title":"Zorba akranlar","slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"home_title":null,"sub_title":null,"category_id":73,"description":"DR. \u0130LHAM\u0130 FINDIK\u00c7I","content":"<p id=\"isPasted\" style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><br><\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style=\"text-align: right;\"><br><\/p><p style='margin: 0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; line-height: normal; font-size: 15px; font-family: \"Calibri\", sans-serif; text-align: right;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>ifindikci@degerdanismanlik.com.tr<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u015fiddet yery\u00fcz\u00fcnde h\u0131zla yay\u0131l\u0131yor. En \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 delillerden biri, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n ve gen\u00e7lerin birbirlerine verdikleri zararlar\u0131n giderek artmas\u0131d\u0131r. Literat\u00fcre yerle\u015fen akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sakland\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in fark\u0131nda olam\u0131yoruz.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir ailenin \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 hikayesi, bu konudaki s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne seriyor. \u015eimdi evlad\u0131 akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131na maruz kalm\u0131\u015f bir anneye kulak verelim: \u201cBizim s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131m\u0131z 9. s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n sonunda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. O\u011flum \u00e7ok ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir \u00f6\u011frenciydi. Liseye giri\u015f s\u0131nav\u0131nda g\u00fczel bir ba\u015far\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi. Ve \u0130stanbul\u2019da ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131 kan\u0131tlanm\u0131\u015f, bilinen bir liseyi kazand\u0131. \u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Okula uyum sa\u011flad\u0131. \u00d6\u011fretmenlerini sevdi. Dersleri iyiydi. Okula ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan beri verdi\u011fimiz haftal\u0131k har\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir s\u00fcre sonra yetmemeye ba\u015flad\u0131. Her \u015fey art\u0131yor, demek ki yetmiyor d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle har\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131rd\u0131k. Fakat bu da yetmedi. Okulun yemekhanesine gitti\u011fi halde daha fazla para istemesi dikkatimizi \u00e7ekti. E\u015fimle birlikte o\u011flumuzla konu\u015ftuk ve korkun\u00e7 ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frendik. Son s\u0131n\u0131flar, g\u00f6zlerine kestirdikleri yeni \u00f6\u011frencilere zorbal\u0131k yap\u0131yorlarm\u0131\u015f. Okuldaki d\u00fczeni aktar\u0131yoruz bahanesiyle benim o\u011flumdan da bir\u00e7ok isteklerde bulunmu\u015flar. Tarihi okulun a\u011falar\u0131 edas\u0131yla baz\u0131 kurallar oldu\u011funu ve bunlara uyulmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6ylemi\u015fler. Mesela lavabo, kantin ve yemek s\u0131ras\u0131nda \u00f6ncelik b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131n\u0131flar\u0131n. \u00dcst s\u0131n\u0131ftaki \u00f6\u011frencilerin k\u0131z arkada\u015flar\u0131yla yak\u0131nla\u015fmak yasak. Baz\u0131 ortak etkinlikler ve har\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 yetersiz \u00f6\u011frenciler i\u00e7in para toplan\u0131r. \u00d6\u011fretmenlere \u015fik\u00e2yet asla olamaz\u2026<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00d6\u011eRENC\u0130 D\u0130Z\u0130S\u0130NDEK\u0130 G\u0130B\u0130\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Asl\u0131nda o zaman o\u011flum durumu aktarm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Biz b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131n\u0131flara a\u011fabeylik ve ablal\u0131k sorumlulu\u011fu verildi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015f, bundan mutlu bile olmu\u015ftuk. Ama sonradan \u00f6\u011frendik ki bu tam anlam\u0131yla bir akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131ym\u0131\u015f. Hatta bunlar bir \u00e7ete gibi hareket ediyormu\u015f. Alt s\u0131n\u0131flar\u0131n kendi aralar\u0131ndaki kavgalarda araya girip kendilerince su\u00e7lu tarafa para yahut i\u015f cezas\u0131 veriyorlarm\u0131\u015f.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u0130lgin\u00e7tir, o d\u00f6nemde buna benzer bir dizi vard\u0131. Dizide liseli \u00f6\u011frencilerin birbirleriyle ili\u015fkileri, m\u00fccadeleleri, kavgalar\u0131 i\u015fleniyordu.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Tam dizideki gibi bunlar da \u00f6\u011frencileri parsellemi\u015fler adeta. \u00c7ete \u00fcyeleri okula ve \u00f6\u011fretmenlere kar\u015f\u0131 son derece m\u00fctevaz\u0131, iyi ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan bir profil \u00e7izerken kendinden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklerin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 kontrol eden ezici bir d\u00fczen kurmu\u015flar. \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>O\u011fluma \u00f6nce baz\u0131 i\u015fler vermi\u015fler. Sonra kendi i\u015flerini yapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015flar. 12. s\u0131n\u0131ftan bir \u00f6\u011frencinin k\u0131z arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6devini yapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015flar hem de birka\u00e7 kez. Sonra paras\u0131 yetmeyen \u00f6\u011frencilere veriyoruz diyerek \u00e7ocuktan para istemi\u015fler. O da okulun gelene\u011fi diye iyi niyetle vermi\u015f. Bu kurallara uymayanlar\u0131 \u00f6nce uyar\u0131yor, sonra s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor, sonra da bildi\u011finiz d\u00f6v\u00fcyorlarm\u0131\u015f. Bizimki isteneni yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in \u015fiddete maruz kalmam\u0131\u015f.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Okul idaresinin duyumlar ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ama konunun bu kadar ileriye gitti\u011finin fark\u0131nda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendik. Onlar da daha s\u0131k\u0131 bi\u00e7imde izleyince \u00e7etenin \u00fcyeleri ciddi bir u\u011fra\u015f sonucu okuldan uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131. \u00c7ok zor bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ya\u015fad\u0131k. Bu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n velileriyle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya geldik. Hatta \u00e7ocuklardan birinin avukat annesinin okula dava a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendik\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>BA\u015eARILI \u0130NSAN, \u0130Y\u0130 \u0130NSAN<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131; baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuk ve gen\u00e7lerin zay\u0131f g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 maddi, fiziksel ve duygusal y\u00f6nden olumsuz etkilemeleridir. Burada kendine g\u00fcvenen g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcn\u00fcn, \u00e7evresindeki akranlar\u0131na s\u00f6z ve davran\u0131\u015f hakk\u0131 tan\u0131mamas\u0131, onlara tekrarlanan fiziksel ya da psikolojik istismar ya da \u015fiddet uygulamas\u0131ndan s\u00f6z ediyoruz. Mahalleye yahut okula yeni gelen \u00e7ocuk, akranlar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan zorlanabiliyor. Bazen geni\u015f ailelerde de bu duruma rastlayabiliyoruz.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Zorlama; \u00e7anta ta\u015f\u0131tmak, g\u00f6zc\u00fc olarak kullanmak, postac\u0131l\u0131k yapt\u0131rmak, \u00f6devini yapt\u0131rmak, telefonunu kullanarak oyun oynamak ve sanal sitelere girmek vb. k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck davran\u0131\u015flarla ba\u015flar. Zorbal\u0131k, zamanla onun paras\u0131n\u0131 almak, okulda yasak davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ona yapt\u0131rmak, ona tacizlerde bulunmak, itiraz etti\u011finde \u015fiddete ba\u015fvurmaya kadar gidebiliyor. Tekil ya da grup halinde yap\u0131lan zorbal\u0131klarda siyaset yahut dini konular da kullan\u0131labiliyor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n akademik ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 izlemek gerekli ve \u00f6nemli. Ancak daha da \u00f6nemlisi onlar\u0131n ki\u015filik geli\u015fimleri. \u00c7ocuk yeti\u015ftirirken, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 insan olmaktan \u00f6nce iyi bir insan olmalar\u0131 y\u00f6n\u00fcnde bir \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterilmesi \u00e7ok m\u00fchim. Yani ne ba\u015fard\u0131klar\u0131 kadar nas\u0131l bir insan olduklar\u0131 da \u00f6nemli. Geli\u015fme \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ndaki \u00e7ocuk ve gencin kimlerle arkada\u015fl\u0131k yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131, kimlerin duygu ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla beslendi\u011finin yak\u0131ndan izlenmesi \u015fart.<\/span><\/p>","slug":"zorba-akranlar-","tags":null,"meta_title":null,"meta_description":null,"meta_keywords":null,"news_cover_min":"\/front\/uploads\/blog\/thumbnail\/1711314000SsXWWJFX7CAUE5I.webp","news_cover":null,"news_video_min":null,"news_video":null,"view_count":5440,"cropped_1200x675":null,"user":{"id":6,"name":"\u0130LHAM\u0130","surname":"FINDIK\u00c7I","email":"kerem49@gonultas.org","slug":"dr-ilhami-findikci","avatar":"\/front\/uploads\/avatar\/17336916007TlCwM70HUjW9XY.webp","status":1,"role":1,"email_verified_at":null,"orde":null,"created_at":"2022-09-15T09:39:41.000000Z","updated_at":"2024-12-18T10:21:29.000000Z","seo_title":null,"seo_description":null},"translations":[{"id":50268,"is_featured":0,"is_amp":0,"is_ads":0,"ads_link":null,"post_id":50142,"locale":"tr","category_id":73,"title":"Zorba akranlar","home_title":null,"sub_title":null,"slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"subtitleuse":0,"description":"DR. \u0130LHAM\u0130 FINDIK\u00c7I","content":"<p id=\"isPasted\" style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><br><\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style=\"text-align: right;\"><br><\/p><p style='margin: 0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; line-height: normal; font-size: 15px; font-family: \"Calibri\", sans-serif; text-align: right;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>ifindikci@degerdanismanlik.com.tr<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u015fiddet yery\u00fcz\u00fcnde h\u0131zla yay\u0131l\u0131yor. En \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 delillerden biri, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n ve gen\u00e7lerin birbirlerine verdikleri zararlar\u0131n giderek artmas\u0131d\u0131r. Literat\u00fcre yerle\u015fen akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sakland\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in fark\u0131nda olam\u0131yoruz.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir ailenin \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 hikayesi, bu konudaki s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne seriyor. \u015eimdi evlad\u0131 akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131na maruz kalm\u0131\u015f bir anneye kulak verelim: \u201cBizim s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131m\u0131z 9. s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n sonunda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. O\u011flum \u00e7ok ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir \u00f6\u011frenciydi. Liseye giri\u015f s\u0131nav\u0131nda g\u00fczel bir ba\u015far\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi. Ve \u0130stanbul\u2019da ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131 kan\u0131tlanm\u0131\u015f, bilinen bir liseyi kazand\u0131. \u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Okula uyum sa\u011flad\u0131. \u00d6\u011fretmenlerini sevdi. Dersleri iyiydi. Okula ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan beri verdi\u011fimiz haftal\u0131k har\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir s\u00fcre sonra yetmemeye ba\u015flad\u0131. Her \u015fey art\u0131yor, demek ki yetmiyor d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle har\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131rd\u0131k. Fakat bu da yetmedi. Okulun yemekhanesine gitti\u011fi halde daha fazla para istemesi dikkatimizi \u00e7ekti. E\u015fimle birlikte o\u011flumuzla konu\u015ftuk ve korkun\u00e7 ger\u00e7e\u011fi \u00f6\u011frendik. Son s\u0131n\u0131flar, g\u00f6zlerine kestirdikleri yeni \u00f6\u011frencilere zorbal\u0131k yap\u0131yorlarm\u0131\u015f. Okuldaki d\u00fczeni aktar\u0131yoruz bahanesiyle benim o\u011flumdan da bir\u00e7ok isteklerde bulunmu\u015flar. Tarihi okulun a\u011falar\u0131 edas\u0131yla baz\u0131 kurallar oldu\u011funu ve bunlara uyulmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6ylemi\u015fler. Mesela lavabo, kantin ve yemek s\u0131ras\u0131nda \u00f6ncelik b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131n\u0131flar\u0131n. \u00dcst s\u0131n\u0131ftaki \u00f6\u011frencilerin k\u0131z arkada\u015flar\u0131yla yak\u0131nla\u015fmak yasak. Baz\u0131 ortak etkinlikler ve har\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 yetersiz \u00f6\u011frenciler i\u00e7in para toplan\u0131r. \u00d6\u011fretmenlere \u015fik\u00e2yet asla olamaz\u2026<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00d6\u011eRENC\u0130 D\u0130Z\u0130S\u0130NDEK\u0130 G\u0130B\u0130\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Asl\u0131nda o zaman o\u011flum durumu aktarm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Biz b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131n\u0131flara a\u011fabeylik ve ablal\u0131k sorumlulu\u011fu verildi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015f, bundan mutlu bile olmu\u015ftuk. Ama sonradan \u00f6\u011frendik ki bu tam anlam\u0131yla bir akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131ym\u0131\u015f. Hatta bunlar bir \u00e7ete gibi hareket ediyormu\u015f. Alt s\u0131n\u0131flar\u0131n kendi aralar\u0131ndaki kavgalarda araya girip kendilerince su\u00e7lu tarafa para yahut i\u015f cezas\u0131 veriyorlarm\u0131\u015f.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u0130lgin\u00e7tir, o d\u00f6nemde buna benzer bir dizi vard\u0131. Dizide liseli \u00f6\u011frencilerin birbirleriyle ili\u015fkileri, m\u00fccadeleleri, kavgalar\u0131 i\u015fleniyordu.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Tam dizideki gibi bunlar da \u00f6\u011frencileri parsellemi\u015fler adeta. \u00c7ete \u00fcyeleri okula ve \u00f6\u011fretmenlere kar\u015f\u0131 son derece m\u00fctevaz\u0131, iyi ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan bir profil \u00e7izerken kendinden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklerin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 kontrol eden ezici bir d\u00fczen kurmu\u015flar. \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>O\u011fluma \u00f6nce baz\u0131 i\u015fler vermi\u015fler. Sonra kendi i\u015flerini yapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015flar. 12. s\u0131n\u0131ftan bir \u00f6\u011frencinin k\u0131z arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6devini yapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015flar hem de birka\u00e7 kez. Sonra paras\u0131 yetmeyen \u00f6\u011frencilere veriyoruz diyerek \u00e7ocuktan para istemi\u015fler. O da okulun gelene\u011fi diye iyi niyetle vermi\u015f. Bu kurallara uymayanlar\u0131 \u00f6nce uyar\u0131yor, sonra s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor, sonra da bildi\u011finiz d\u00f6v\u00fcyorlarm\u0131\u015f. Bizimki isteneni yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in \u015fiddete maruz kalmam\u0131\u015f.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Okul idaresinin duyumlar ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ama konunun bu kadar ileriye gitti\u011finin fark\u0131nda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendik. Onlar da daha s\u0131k\u0131 bi\u00e7imde izleyince \u00e7etenin \u00fcyeleri ciddi bir u\u011fra\u015f sonucu okuldan uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131. \u00c7ok zor bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ya\u015fad\u0131k. Bu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n velileriyle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya geldik. Hatta \u00e7ocuklardan birinin avukat annesinin okula dava a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendik\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><strong><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>BA\u015eARILI \u0130NSAN, \u0130Y\u0130 \u0130NSAN<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131; baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuk ve gen\u00e7lerin zay\u0131f g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 maddi, fiziksel ve duygusal y\u00f6nden olumsuz etkilemeleridir. Burada kendine g\u00fcvenen g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcn\u00fcn, \u00e7evresindeki akranlar\u0131na s\u00f6z ve davran\u0131\u015f hakk\u0131 tan\u0131mamas\u0131, onlara tekrarlanan fiziksel ya da psikolojik istismar ya da \u015fiddet uygulamas\u0131ndan s\u00f6z ediyoruz. Mahalleye yahut okula yeni gelen \u00e7ocuk, akranlar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan zorlanabiliyor. Bazen geni\u015f ailelerde de bu duruma rastlayabiliyoruz.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Zorlama; \u00e7anta ta\u015f\u0131tmak, g\u00f6zc\u00fc olarak kullanmak, postac\u0131l\u0131k yapt\u0131rmak, \u00f6devini yapt\u0131rmak, telefonunu kullanarak oyun oynamak ve sanal sitelere girmek vb. k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck davran\u0131\u015flarla ba\u015flar. Zorbal\u0131k, zamanla onun paras\u0131n\u0131 almak, okulda yasak davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ona yapt\u0131rmak, ona tacizlerde bulunmak, itiraz etti\u011finde \u015fiddete ba\u015fvurmaya kadar gidebiliyor. Tekil ya da grup halinde yap\u0131lan zorbal\u0131klarda siyaset yahut dini konular da kullan\u0131labiliyor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n akademik ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 izlemek gerekli ve \u00f6nemli. Ancak daha da \u00f6nemlisi onlar\u0131n ki\u015filik geli\u015fimleri. \u00c7ocuk yeti\u015ftirirken, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 insan olmaktan \u00f6nce iyi bir insan olmalar\u0131 y\u00f6n\u00fcnde bir \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterilmesi \u00e7ok m\u00fchim. Yani ne ba\u015fard\u0131klar\u0131 kadar nas\u0131l bir insan olduklar\u0131 da \u00f6nemli. Geli\u015fme \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ndaki \u00e7ocuk ve gencin kimlerle arkada\u015fl\u0131k yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131, kimlerin duygu ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla beslendi\u011finin yak\u0131ndan izlenmesi \u015fart.<\/span><\/p>","slug":"zorba-akranlar-","orjinalimage":"\/front\/uploads\/blog\/thumbnail\/1711314000SsXWWJFX7CAUE5I.webp","news_cover_min":"\/front\/uploads\/blog\/thumbnail\/1711314000SsXWWJFX7CAUE5I.webp","news_cover":null,"news_video_min":null,"news_video":null,"cropped_638x552":null,"cropped_310x208":null,"cropped_416x247":null,"cropped_197x247":null,"cropped_416x600":null,"cropped_1200x675":null,"tags":null,"meta_title":null,"meta_description":null,"meta_keywords":null,"view_count":5440,"yt":0,"ytid":"","ytimage":null,"imgdate":"2000-01-01 00:00:00","cuff_cover":null,"cropped_358x214":null,"cropped_842x474":null}]}}