{"status":true,"post":{"id":85633,"user_id":5,"status":1,"type":1,"orde":null,"notification_type":0,"static_post":0,"published_at":"2026-03-06 09:47:00","created_at":"2026-03-06T06:47:00.000000Z","updated_at":"2026-03-06T06:47:00.000000Z","edited_at":"2026-03-06 09:47:00","source_id":null,"post_id":85633,"is_featured":0,"title":"\u015eehir hayat\u0131nda sab\u0131r, tahamm\u00fcl ve tebess\u00fcm","slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"home_title":"\u015eehir hayat\u0131nda sab\u0131r, tahamm\u00fcl ve tebess\u00fcm","sub_title":null,"category_id":73,"description":null,"content":"<p id=\"isPasted\"><strong>Hakiki k\u00f6ylerde ya\u015fayanlara hi\u00e7 laf\u0131m\u0131z yok. Onlar zaten yard\u0131mla\u015fman\u0131n, dayan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n, nezaketin, birbirlerine tahamm\u00fcl etmenin do\u011fal\u0131ndan al\u00e2s\u0131n\u0131 yap\u0131yor, \u015fehirdekilere de \u00f6rnek oluyorlar.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Fakat \u015fehir, bencil olman\u0131n her t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u00f6rneklerinin ac\u0131mas\u0131zca sergilendi\u011fi yer olmu\u015f durumda maalesef. Tabii ki nezaketi ve sayg\u0131y\u0131 eksik etmeyen \u00e7ok iyi \u00f6rnekler de var. Olmas\u0131 gereken; b\u00fct\u00fcn bu de\u011ferlerin en iyisinin \u015fehirlerde ve \u00f6zellikle b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde ya\u015fanmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>\u015eehirli olman\u0131n k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc de itibar\u0131 da bunu gerektirir. Ayr\u0131ca \u015fehir hayat\u0131 bunu \u015fiddetle zorunlu k\u0131l\u0131yor. B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde asgari m\u00fc\u015ftereklerde birlikte ya\u015faman\u0131n toplumsal kurallar\u0131 vard\u0131r ve buna riayet etmedi\u011fimizde i\u015f \u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131r\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kabilir.<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>\u2018Eskiden \u015f\u00f6yle olurdu\u2019 \u015feklinde kuraca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir\u00e7ok c\u00fcmle var. Ancak bunlar g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze fayda getirmiyor, itibar da edilmiyor zaten. Trafikten ba\u015flayal\u0131m. \u015eehrin yo\u011fun trafi\u011finde kimsede tahamm\u00fcl kalmam\u0131\u015f, birbirine yol veren, tebess\u00fcm eden, nezaket g\u00f6sterenlerin say\u0131s\u0131 giderek azal\u0131yor.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Yaya da bundan farkl\u0131 de\u011fil, kendine verilen ge\u00e7i\u015f hakk\u0131n\u0131 aheste aheste kullan\u0131yor, h\u0131zl\u0131ca ge\u00e7eyim de ara\u00e7lar da gitsin derdinde de\u011fil. Metroya binerken Beylerbeyi vapurunda eskilerin g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi nezaketin binde birine raz\u0131y\u0131z. Metroda b\u00fcy\u00fcklere yer verme i\u015fi zaten tedav\u00fclden kalkt\u0131, elimizdeki ak\u0131ll\u0131dan ba\u015fka kimseyi g\u00f6rm\u00fcyoruz.<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>En \u00e7ok bencillik; trafikte, b\u00fcy\u00fck sitelerde, b\u00fcy\u00fck i\u015fyerlerinde, toplu ta\u015f\u0131mada yani samimi ileti\u015fimin kurulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 her yerde oluyor. Ger\u00e7ekte ise en \u00e7ok samimi ileti\u015fime buralarda ihtiya\u00e7 var. Zira, \u015fehir hayat\u0131nda her \u015fey k\u0131t maalesef. G\u00f6sterece\u011fimiz sevgi, sayg\u0131, samimiyet, nezaket ve her t\u00fcrden de\u011feri k\u0131t kaynak olarak kullan\u0131yoruz. Sanki cebimizdeki paradan gidiyormu\u015f gibi bir tav\u0131r i\u00e7erisindeyiz ve tam anlam\u0131yla cimrilik yap\u0131yoruz. \u0130\u015fte bunu anlamland\u0131rmak da anlamak da m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n rutinleri olarak; mesaide, i\u015fyerinde, caddede, sokakta, \u00e7ar\u015f\u0131da, pazarda, markette, bakkalda, camide, kafede, trafikte, otoparkta, otob\u00fcste, vapurda, motorda, metroda, Marmaray\u2019da, takside, dolmu\u015fta, dost meclisinde, kom\u015fu ziyaretinde, akraba bulu\u015fmas\u0131nda bir vesile birlikte oluruz.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Buralar\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131k oran\u0131 y\u00fcksek oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in samimiyet i\u00e7erisinde ge\u00e7er, bir k\u0131sm\u0131 yar\u0131 resmi, di\u011ferleri ise mesafeli ili\u015fkilerdir.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Fakat \u00fclkemizin b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerinde bu t\u00fcrden g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131 ya\u015farken bir \u015fehirli insana yak\u0131\u015fan ileti\u015fimde; nezaketi, inceli\u011fi, zarafeti elden b\u0131rakmamak gerekti\u011fidir. Zira b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehir hayat\u0131; zorluklar\u0131n, bir yere yeti\u015fmenin, kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n, acelecili\u011fin, vakitsizli\u011fin, yorgunlu\u011fun, stresin bolca var oldu\u011fu ve ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 mekanlard\u0131r.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Hayat\u0131n bu h\u0131zl\u0131 ve gergin ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na; sabretmenin, tahamm\u00fcl\u00fcn, nezaketin, sayg\u0131n\u0131n ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n bolca g\u00f6sterilmesi gereken zaman\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Bir g\u00fcn sen tahamm\u00fcl edersin, di\u011fer g\u00fcn sana tahamm\u00fcl ederler. Devran b\u00f6yle s\u00fcr\u00fcp gider.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>G\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 pozitife \u00e7evirmek zorunday\u0131z. Bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z bu y\u00f6nde olmal\u0131. Bak\u0131n Milli E\u011fitim Bakanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131 kavram\u0131n\u0131 tersine \u00e7evirerek akran nezaketi olarak bakmam\u0131z\u0131 tavsiye ediyor. Zorbal\u0131ktan hareket ederseniz negatiften ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f olursunuz, nezaketten hareket ederseniz de pozitiften. \u015eehirde ya\u015fayanlar olarak ba\u015fka se\u00e7ene\u011fimiz yok.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Zira zaten \u015fehrin bizatihi kendisi fazlas\u0131yla stres y\u00fckl\u00fc; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc onun istiap haddini kald\u0131rabilece\u011finden fazla a\u015ft\u0131k. Bu y\u00fck\u00fc ancak payla\u015farak azaltabiliriz. Bunu sab\u0131r ve tahamm\u00fcl s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 geli\u015ftirerek ba\u015farabiliriz. Aksi durumda istemedi\u011fimiz olaylara sebebiyet vermi\u015f oluruz, bu da g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131 daha da \u00e7ekilmez hale getirir.<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>\u00c7ok negatif bir yaz\u0131 oldu\u011funun fark\u0131nday\u0131m ancak maalesef foto\u011fraf bu. Ba\u015flayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yer; \u015fehirli olmaya yak\u0131\u015fan de\u011ferlerimizi g\u00fcncelleyerek g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fczelle\u015ftirmektir. \u0130stanbul\u2019da bunu yerle\u015ftirmek bu \u015fehrin ruhuna \u00e7ok uygun d\u00fc\u015fer. Tebess\u00fcm\u00fcn sadaka oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen sevgili peygamberimize ithafen \u2018tebess\u00fcm sadakad\u0131r\u2019 kampanyas\u0131 yapsak yeridir yani.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Bu kadar ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z var birbirimize tebess\u00fcm etmeye. M\u00fcbarek ay Ramazan\u2019da bu ba\u015flang\u0131ca \u00e7ok uygun d\u00fc\u015fer. De\u011ferlerimize d\u00f6nelim, g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131m\u0131z daha g\u00fczel aks\u0131n.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p>","slug":"sehir-hayatinda-sabir-tahammul-ve-tebessum","tags":null,"meta_title":"\u015eehir hayat\u0131nda sab\u0131r, tahamm\u00fcl ve tebess\u00fcm","meta_description":"Hakiki k\u00f6ylerde ya\u015fayanlara hi\u00e7 laf\u0131m\u0131z yok. Onlar zaten yard\u0131mla\u015fman\u0131n, dayan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n, nezaketin, birbirlerine tahamm\u00fcl etmenin do\u011fal\u0131ndan al\u00e2s\u0131n\u0131 yap\u0131yor, \u015fehirdekilere de \u00f6rnek oluyorlar.","meta_keywords":null,"news_cover_min":"\/front\/uploads\/blog\/thumbnail\/1772744400wG4ukPLeFsOj8QJ.webp","news_cover":null,"news_video_min":null,"news_video":null,"view_count":0,"cropped_1200x675":"\/front\/uploads\/haber\/1200x675\/sehir-hayatinda-sabir-tahammul-ve-tebessum_1200x675_ev5Q28DKEI.webp","user":{"id":5,"name":"AHMET EMRE","surname":"B\u0130LG\u0130L\u0130","email":"mcetiner@menemencioglu.net","slug":"prof-dr-ahmet-emre-bilgili","avatar":"\/front\/uploads\/avatar\/173369160076ryfup3NGA3Op4.webp","status":1,"role":1,"email_verified_at":null,"orde":null,"created_at":"2022-09-15T09:39:41.000000Z","updated_at":"2024-12-18T10:21:44.000000Z","seo_title":null,"seo_description":null},"translations":[{"id":85765,"is_featured":0,"is_amp":0,"is_ads":0,"ads_link":null,"post_id":85633,"locale":"tr","category_id":73,"title":"\u015eehir hayat\u0131nda sab\u0131r, tahamm\u00fcl ve tebess\u00fcm","home_title":"\u015eehir hayat\u0131nda sab\u0131r, tahamm\u00fcl ve tebess\u00fcm","sub_title":null,"slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"subtitleuse":0,"description":null,"content":"<p id=\"isPasted\"><strong>Hakiki k\u00f6ylerde ya\u015fayanlara hi\u00e7 laf\u0131m\u0131z yok. Onlar zaten yard\u0131mla\u015fman\u0131n, dayan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n, nezaketin, birbirlerine tahamm\u00fcl etmenin do\u011fal\u0131ndan al\u00e2s\u0131n\u0131 yap\u0131yor, \u015fehirdekilere de \u00f6rnek oluyorlar.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Fakat \u015fehir, bencil olman\u0131n her t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u00f6rneklerinin ac\u0131mas\u0131zca sergilendi\u011fi yer olmu\u015f durumda maalesef. Tabii ki nezaketi ve sayg\u0131y\u0131 eksik etmeyen \u00e7ok iyi \u00f6rnekler de var. Olmas\u0131 gereken; b\u00fct\u00fcn bu de\u011ferlerin en iyisinin \u015fehirlerde ve \u00f6zellikle b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde ya\u015fanmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>\u015eehirli olman\u0131n k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc de itibar\u0131 da bunu gerektirir. Ayr\u0131ca \u015fehir hayat\u0131 bunu \u015fiddetle zorunlu k\u0131l\u0131yor. B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde asgari m\u00fc\u015ftereklerde birlikte ya\u015faman\u0131n toplumsal kurallar\u0131 vard\u0131r ve buna riayet etmedi\u011fimizde i\u015f \u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131r\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kabilir.<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>\u2018Eskiden \u015f\u00f6yle olurdu\u2019 \u015feklinde kuraca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir\u00e7ok c\u00fcmle var. Ancak bunlar g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze fayda getirmiyor, itibar da edilmiyor zaten. Trafikten ba\u015flayal\u0131m. \u015eehrin yo\u011fun trafi\u011finde kimsede tahamm\u00fcl kalmam\u0131\u015f, birbirine yol veren, tebess\u00fcm eden, nezaket g\u00f6sterenlerin say\u0131s\u0131 giderek azal\u0131yor.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Yaya da bundan farkl\u0131 de\u011fil, kendine verilen ge\u00e7i\u015f hakk\u0131n\u0131 aheste aheste kullan\u0131yor, h\u0131zl\u0131ca ge\u00e7eyim de ara\u00e7lar da gitsin derdinde de\u011fil. Metroya binerken Beylerbeyi vapurunda eskilerin g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi nezaketin binde birine raz\u0131y\u0131z. Metroda b\u00fcy\u00fcklere yer verme i\u015fi zaten tedav\u00fclden kalkt\u0131, elimizdeki ak\u0131ll\u0131dan ba\u015fka kimseyi g\u00f6rm\u00fcyoruz.<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>En \u00e7ok bencillik; trafikte, b\u00fcy\u00fck sitelerde, b\u00fcy\u00fck i\u015fyerlerinde, toplu ta\u015f\u0131mada yani samimi ileti\u015fimin kurulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 her yerde oluyor. Ger\u00e7ekte ise en \u00e7ok samimi ileti\u015fime buralarda ihtiya\u00e7 var. Zira, \u015fehir hayat\u0131nda her \u015fey k\u0131t maalesef. G\u00f6sterece\u011fimiz sevgi, sayg\u0131, samimiyet, nezaket ve her t\u00fcrden de\u011feri k\u0131t kaynak olarak kullan\u0131yoruz. Sanki cebimizdeki paradan gidiyormu\u015f gibi bir tav\u0131r i\u00e7erisindeyiz ve tam anlam\u0131yla cimrilik yap\u0131yoruz. \u0130\u015fte bunu anlamland\u0131rmak da anlamak da m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n rutinleri olarak; mesaide, i\u015fyerinde, caddede, sokakta, \u00e7ar\u015f\u0131da, pazarda, markette, bakkalda, camide, kafede, trafikte, otoparkta, otob\u00fcste, vapurda, motorda, metroda, Marmaray\u2019da, takside, dolmu\u015fta, dost meclisinde, kom\u015fu ziyaretinde, akraba bulu\u015fmas\u0131nda bir vesile birlikte oluruz.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Buralar\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131k oran\u0131 y\u00fcksek oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in samimiyet i\u00e7erisinde ge\u00e7er, bir k\u0131sm\u0131 yar\u0131 resmi, di\u011ferleri ise mesafeli ili\u015fkilerdir.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Fakat \u00fclkemizin b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerinde bu t\u00fcrden g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131 ya\u015farken bir \u015fehirli insana yak\u0131\u015fan ileti\u015fimde; nezaketi, inceli\u011fi, zarafeti elden b\u0131rakmamak gerekti\u011fidir. Zira b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehir hayat\u0131; zorluklar\u0131n, bir yere yeti\u015fmenin, kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n, acelecili\u011fin, vakitsizli\u011fin, yorgunlu\u011fun, stresin bolca var oldu\u011fu ve ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 mekanlard\u0131r.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Hayat\u0131n bu h\u0131zl\u0131 ve gergin ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na; sabretmenin, tahamm\u00fcl\u00fcn, nezaketin, sayg\u0131n\u0131n ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n bolca g\u00f6sterilmesi gereken zaman\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Bir g\u00fcn sen tahamm\u00fcl edersin, di\u011fer g\u00fcn sana tahamm\u00fcl ederler. Devran b\u00f6yle s\u00fcr\u00fcp gider.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>G\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 pozitife \u00e7evirmek zorunday\u0131z. Bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z bu y\u00f6nde olmal\u0131. Bak\u0131n Milli E\u011fitim Bakanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131 kavram\u0131n\u0131 tersine \u00e7evirerek akran nezaketi olarak bakmam\u0131z\u0131 tavsiye ediyor. Zorbal\u0131ktan hareket ederseniz negatiften ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f olursunuz, nezaketten hareket ederseniz de pozitiften. \u015eehirde ya\u015fayanlar olarak ba\u015fka se\u00e7ene\u011fimiz yok.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Zira zaten \u015fehrin bizatihi kendisi fazlas\u0131yla stres y\u00fckl\u00fc; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc onun istiap haddini kald\u0131rabilece\u011finden fazla a\u015ft\u0131k. Bu y\u00fck\u00fc ancak payla\u015farak azaltabiliriz. Bunu sab\u0131r ve tahamm\u00fcl s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 geli\u015ftirerek ba\u015farabiliriz. Aksi durumda istemedi\u011fimiz olaylara sebebiyet vermi\u015f oluruz, bu da g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131 daha da \u00e7ekilmez hale getirir.<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>\u00c7ok negatif bir yaz\u0131 oldu\u011funun fark\u0131nday\u0131m ancak maalesef foto\u011fraf bu. Ba\u015flayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yer; \u015fehirli olmaya yak\u0131\u015fan de\u011ferlerimizi g\u00fcncelleyerek g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fczelle\u015ftirmektir. \u0130stanbul\u2019da bunu yerle\u015ftirmek bu \u015fehrin ruhuna \u00e7ok uygun d\u00fc\u015fer. Tebess\u00fcm\u00fcn sadaka oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen sevgili peygamberimize ithafen \u2018tebess\u00fcm sadakad\u0131r\u2019 kampanyas\u0131 yapsak yeridir yani.\u00a0<\/p><p><br><\/p><p>Bu kadar ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z var birbirimize tebess\u00fcm etmeye. M\u00fcbarek ay Ramazan\u2019da bu ba\u015flang\u0131ca \u00e7ok uygun d\u00fc\u015fer. 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